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How to react when you panic......

Thu, 28 Oct 2010 07:21:44 +0100

* BODY LANGUAGE AND PANIC: What do you do when danger calls?

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Don't shoot the bear

Do you push the PANIC button?

Pull back.....POUNCE......or simply pull the trigger?

Getting ahead and STAYING there is all about the fight......or FLIGHT response.

Confront and CONQUER.......or curl up and cower?

Hey........I'm a runner......but mostly because I have small hands, and bruise easily..;-)

Which one are you?

All of this sound sound crazy? Have absolutely NO idea what I'm talking about?

If it does......you better watch the video below.

The question we REALLY want to know is.........Did you shoot the bear?

Let us know in the comments below.

I could be wrong.......but I've got you pegged as a lover.....and not a fighter. Watch the video and prove me right!

* BODY LANGUAGE AND PANIC: What do you do when danger calls?

http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=HyTIF&m=LVvrAE0zdw_P5C&b=hDPm8jMU1ma9qm1dyzlBOg

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* SHORT VIDEO: Body Language, Confidence, and Credit:

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Hi - I'm always telling you how important it is to HAVE CONFIDENCE when using BODY LANGUAGE, otherwise it just doesn't work...

But there's something VERY related to confidence which can affect your mastery of body language, though it might seem unrelated at first...

Let me illustrate with a personal confession...

When this economic, uhh...."downturn" started, it hit me HARD.

I had a house I couldn't sell.

I had a business that not only WASN'T fun anymore.....it wasn't making too much money, either.

As time turned tougher.....I started to turn to my credit cards to get by. And while I'm NOT a world famous financial guru or anything, you don't need to be a genius to know how that story

ends...:-)

The truth is, at some point, I felt STUCK like chuck......and up a river without a paddle, and the pitter patter of PANIC began to set in.

* SHORT VIDEO: Body Language, Confidence, and Credit:

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But rather than GIVE up and go under.....I committed myself to learning, absorbing and re-framing my finances......and FAST.

I looked for.....and found teachers....educators and mentors in books, on webpages and even TV.

The most meaningful....and memorable of the lessons I learned were actually shared by Robert Kiyosaki, the famous financial "guru" who wrote Rich Dad, Poor Dad.

* SHORT VIDEO: Body Language, Confidence, and Credit:

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And while I'm NOT a big believer in following the advice of celebrities experts, he shared 2 critical things with me that changed my view on both my financial future....and my LIFE overall.

If you're struggling with financial pressure, {name} I URGE you to check out todays short free video clip, because BOTH of these lessons are highlighted by Robert, on a recent visit to ABC news.

It's amazing how much a little well timed inspiration can do for your life.....and when I needed a nudge, this was waiting for me. If you are one of the MILLIONS of folks around the globe suffering with credit.....or financial issues that are SAPPING your self confidence, and leaving you listless and drained......help IS available, and I promise....it will get better!

(Check out the short video here)

* SHORT VIDEO: Body Language, Confidence, and Credit:

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Jason :-http://www.aweber.com/z/r/?jAxs7IzMLLQsnBxMjEzszLRmtOysLExMnEw=

body language

Thu, 08 Jul 2010 00:11:26 +0100

Hi ,

You might be surprised to learn that

one of the biggest problems people have in using their body language effectively is guilt.

Inappropriate guilt is one of the

more powerful feelings which can

negatively influence our body language.

You see, it can make us feel that we don't DESERVE the outcome we desire.

It can make us unconsciously sabotage

our body language so we don't get what

we want!!

, Guilt is a killer for

people trying to master body language.

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HAVE YOU LOOKD YET???

"Conversational hypnosis will greatly

enhance your ability to use body language!"

http://www.AllAboutBodyLanguage.com/BLIANC.php

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The key to letting go of guilt is somewhat

surprising and very counterintuitive. It first

involves acknowledging that guilt plays

a healthy and vital role in human functioning!

You see, to let go of guilt you must first

be able to to distinguish inappropriate from

appropriate guilt!!

Only once we understand this can

we truly purge ourselves of NEUROTIC GUILT,

and change our behaviors so we can let

go of APPROPRIATE GUILT.

I sometimes think about about neurotic

guilt as the perception of a "'blemished soul", in

contrast to normal, healthy guilt which is

only intended to get us to behave differently,

and should dissolve quickly once that happens.

Appropriate Vs. Inappropriate Guilt

There's an interesting problem

attached to relieving inappropriate

guilt. People mistakenly attempt to

get rid of ALL guilt, failing to recognize

that certain types of guilt are necessary

for healthy psychological functioning.

Guilt evolved in human consciousness

to play a vital role in our society, and it

is the DISTORTION of this role which

needs to be eliminated, NOT guilt in

its entirety.

Our psyches are prone to "fight back"

as we attempt to pry all of the guilt from

within them. This happens because most

attempts to eliminate guilt target BOTH

the healthy and neurotic versions, and

because these attempts do not replace

healthy guilt with a more benevolent

entity intended to serve the same functions

that guilt evolved to serve..

In fact, paradoxically, when we attempt

to eradicate guilt completely, we actually

wind up feeling MORE intense, inappropriate

guilt than we started with.

During the 1900s (and especially during

the 1960s humanistic movement), there

was a lot of emphasis on relieving the

burdens of excessive guilt, particularly

surrounding s.xu.l feelings, but also

regarding money and other forms of self

satisfaction (e.g. food). The intensity of the

efforts in Western culture to accomplish this

was, in part, a reaction to the strong

repressive philosophies of the Victorian era.

But, while most of us would NOT want

to return to the strict Victorian repressions,

we all know intuitively that in the complete

absence of society, we would live in a

primitive state of nature in which only brute

force would rule. Human rights,

specialization of the work force, the concept

of personal property... all benefits of living

cooperatively in a community... would fade

away, yielding to a chaotic world where

"might makes right."

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HAVE YOU LOOKD YET???

"Conversational hypnosis will greatly

enhance your ability to use body language!"

http://www.AllAboutBodyLanguage.com/BLIANC.php

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To avoid this outcome, all societies have

based themselves upon a system of rules

and morals. Most of us, desiring to

participate in society, have learned to feel

a sense of psychological discomfort when

we perceive we are not acting consistently

within them.

However, there is more to guilt than

societal pressures. We also create guilt

on an individual level, as we are prone

to set goals for ourselves and then want

to see our behavior consistent with our

desire to accomplish these goals. If we

observe our behavior to be moving us

in a contrary direction, we feel upset

with ourselves. We experience a sense

of guilt, not because we have broken

the rules of society, but because

we have let ourselves down.

Of course it is a serious problem

when our guilt mechanism fires too

intensely or too frequently. But it would

be a more serious problem if it were

to not fire at all. The goal then, for

psychological well being, to achieve

our goals, and to function as a

cooperative society is to be able to

distinguish between appropriate

healthy guilt and guilt which is

inappropriately triggered or too harsh

for a given set of circumstances.

Appropriate Guilt

Guilt functions to bring a specific

behavior back into alignment with

either our INDIVIDUAL goals or with

the goals of a group of people with

whom we wish to identify ourselves.

Once the behavior has been brought

back into alignment, the guilt should

disappear. There's no purpose in

continuing to feel guilty once we've

corrected a mistake. Of course, we can

REMEMBER that should we happen to

make the mistake again in the future,

we will likely feel guilty again ... but

after correcting our behavior, the

sensation of guilt itself should leave

us, and our energies should be freed

to work towards more constructive goals.

For example, this afternoon as I

was very involved in writing this letter,

I neglected to take my dog Zachary out

for his afternoon walk at the appropriate

time. About an hour past his normal

walk time I realized what had happened.

I felt moderately guilty about this neglect,

so I ran upstairs and took him out. (I

gave him an extra few minutes and a

big hug, too). When I came downstairs

to return to my writing, I set an alarm

on my computer for each day during

the rest of the week in order to be

sure I would remember, since it

seems that time passes ever so

quickly when I am composing a note.

After I had walked him and the

alarms were set, I was able to let

go of the guilt that I felt.

The only point of healthy guilt is to

help us accomplish goals we wish to

accomplish, behave in the manner in

which we wish to behave and protect

other people's right to strive towards

their own goals in the context of our

society.

If I had continued to berate myself

about being a neglectful dog-dad or

found it difficult to concentrate or felt

an uncommon urge to make it up to

Zach by taking him to the dog park

every day this week ... that would

have been neurotic and unhealthy

guilt.

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HAVE YOU LOOKD YET???

"Conversational hypnosis will greatly

enhance your ability to use body language!"

http://www.AllAboutBodyLanguage.com/BLIANC.php

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The characteristics to remember

about normal, healthy guilt is that it

is (1) goal oriented (intended to help

the individual either function in his social

group OR to live up to his or her

own goals) (2) focused on specific

behaviors and (3) able to be dissolved

once a problem behavior has changed.

Unhealthy guilt lacks one or more of

these characteristics. It is (1) often

present without any specific goals

(2) focused upon a person's character

or entire sense of self (a "shaming"

internal presence) (3) triggered by

irrelevant events or thoughts and (4) has

a nasty tendency to persist regardless

of what actions we take to bring ourselves

in line with its expectations.

When unhealthy guilt is experienced

regularly, people begin to feel as if

there is something intrinsically bad

about them, almost as if they had

a blemish on their soul.

Unhealthy guilt leaves a strong mark

too on our body language, and hampers

our ability to use it effectively! Make

a practice of (1) sensitizing yourself to

guilty feelings; (2) regularly examining

them in order to determine whether they

are healthy or neurotic, and take the

appropriate actions to relieve guilt in

either case!

Hope this helps!

All My Best,

Jason Bodmarken

Interface Research Inc.

PS - The main body language book is here:

http://www.allaboutbodylanguage.com/BLIANM.php

Brazilian Fever in South Africa 2010

Wed, 07 Jul 2010 16:36:17 +0100

Expresso Brazil in the World Cup brings Brazilian culture to South Africa in international project unheard of MinC

"Football is in our genetic heritage, our culture. Emotionally, it mobilizes.
Have our dancing, our music, our art. "
Zulu Araújo

The Ministry of Culture of Brazil, through the Palmares Cultural Foundation and in partnership with Mauricio Pessoa Productions, has unprecedented participation in the World Cup Soccer 2010, held in South Africa Sponsored by Eletrobras via Rouanet law, design Expresso Brazil in the World Cup brings a series of activities that show the thought and artistic expression and intellectual Brazilian, like workshops, film showings, lectures, performances and street concerts. The program takes place in parallel and simultaneously the soccer World Cup in three key cities: Johannesburg, Durban and Cape Town.

The main objective of the movement is to spread the Brazilian art and promote cultural exchange between Brazil and South Africa. The Palmares Cultural Foundation already has the practice of developing strategies of approximation between Brazil and Africa. "Brazil is the largest cultural reference and the diaspora has a responsibility with it," said Zulu Araújo, President of the Palmares Cultural Foundation. Another objective of the Expresso Brazil in the World Cup is also spreading the FIFA World Cup 2014 to be held in Brazil. "This is the start up for a work of cultural diffusion that will continue until the next World Cup. The country will only gain by this, "complete Araujo.

In South Africa, the core audience that the project hopes to achieve is the very African population. "What they know about Brazilian culture is superficial: lying between the percussion and Capoeira. They do not know our artists and do not know how Brazil sees Africa," says Lim Son Elysium, project coordinator and Director of Development and Promotion of Afro-Brazilian culture, the Palmares Foundation. He adds: "Our great challenge is to show to the African continent how Brazil sees them and how they influence us. We have The Ballet Folkloric, the band Black River, Jefferson De from the cinema, the samba school Portela”.

As a proud South African myself, I would like to personally thank on behalf of all Mzanzi, the Teams that are actively involved in making this Project possible for South Africa 2010. We all hope that this experience has bonded Africa and Brazil for great things to come.